Sunday, June 29, 2025
Tuesday, June 24, 2025
What Child is This?
Amidst the tragedies that surround him
Hovering around him and through him
He hides, stunned and shocked
Covering himself up with
Dirt and leaves like a hunted animal
His scent remains strong
Fear abounds
Can these predators who hunt and destroy
Find him?
Masked men determined to grab him
Shove him into a van, sending him
Away to no promised land
He was just working
Following all the rules
When a dragnet swept him up
Beating him senselessly
Tasering him
Taking away all of his rights
Only to dash themselves
To hell for carrying out the orders
That were given to them
Just doing their jobs
What child is this?
Tuesday, June 17, 2025
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Friday, June 13, 2025
Friday, May 23, 2025
A Contemporary Queen
I have been having the most interesting time during the past few days. It began when I returned to what I thought was an obsession, a compulsive pattern of mine. When I get attracted to something, I want it and "fight" tooth and nail to get what I want. As gracefully as possible, that is. That pattern has been true much of my life and usually I am not proud of it. As if it is wrong somehow, or even shameful to go after what I want. More about growing up female in a patriarchy on another day.
Let me back up. I didn’t marry until I was 38 years old, and the thought of living with another person, much less a partner, was unfamiliar to me, except in my family of origin. I remember early in my marriage I was a bit surprised because when I loaned a friend some money to buy a car, my husband was curious about my not talking with him first about it. "Oh," I wondered, "I don’t know these new rules." By projecting how I would feel if he did that to me (ah, empathy...), I learned to be more courteous and collaborative rather than continuing to make all my financial decisions by myself, which I had done for so long. Seemed to work better that way.
In any case, for several months around my 70th birthday, after three of my five family of origin members passed on to another space and time, I realized more viscerally how this physical life can be very short, or very long, and I wanted to do several new things for myself. So many practices, healing methods, and meditative and mystery school processes have helped me throughout time.* I actually have great gratitude for the isolation of the pandemic because I found more time to listen more deeply to my Soul during these past few years than ever before. Many types and styles of practices assisted me for the past 5 years of transformation and growth, and I am very glad I have also been able to participate in the healing power of psychedelic medicines in safe and well-guided settings, amongst peers, colleagues, new friends, and facilitators.
A year ago when my 99 yr old mother’s health got worse, I decided I could retire from my psychotherapy career (after considering this idea for a few years), and I had never really thought about that idea before then. Naive, silly, or limiting myself and my dreams, I know not what. I realized that I could actually retire and open up space to do something else in my life. having been a professional career woman for 45 years. I have always been a very hard worker, nose to the grind, focused on learning, making money, being a good girl, helping others, and enjoying my career, as if work was the most important part of life, or at least a primary foundation or grounding for whatever else I have done. So, I began making plans to retire and move forward, shocking some of my peers because after all, psychotherapists work until extremely old ages, if they want to and can.
More than a year ago, I began creating a new website that went through many drafts and phases finally culminating in my current website: SacredFreedomRevolution.com The website partly attempts to define my interests these days and my mission and hopes for a better life for all.
Then when my mother died, I decided I wanted to buy a beach house and live at the beach or at least stay at the beach for some parts of the year, and yes, knew I could rent a place, which would be wiser than buying a home there, hurricanes and all. After reading Ann Morrow Lindbergh and May Sarton as a young woman, I romanticized this dream of living at the beach, being some sort of creative artist, even though I never took that seriously because I grew up very middle class with fear and insecurity about money and having enough. Scarcity vs. abundance.
Also, by this time I had been living in a city, Nashville, TN, where I have lived for almost 50 years and although it seemed kind of wild and adventurous to think about leaving Nashville, I felt ready. I have my family to consider though, and I admit and confess to having moved them around a lot (probably far too often) even if in the same town. A repetition compulsion,** developed when my family of origin moved from town to town, house to house when I was young. So again, I thought, “oh, it’s just my usual pattern of moving,” which I have enjoyed in my adult life but which became a coping mechanism or defense for all sorts of feelings, having been traumatized by so many moves in my early life.
Being busy has been my primary coping skill and moving frequently helped me do that! My geographical and emotional roots were often shallowed by moving so often, making for a pretty anxious person. Earlier, moving was not in my control but was my parents’ decision. So, having mastered moving myself throughout my adult years, I learned to just stay put for awhile as the years have gone by. I have loved every home I have ever lived in and homes became a constant energy or force throughout this life of mine, setting me up to love looking for homes, engaging with homes, picking homes that fit my current phase of life, and more. Perhaps attaching me more to homes than to people at time, along with my attachment to every pet I have ever had.
This beach longing voice, a part of my inner being, had been getting louder and louder.A few years ago, I traveled down to the beach and spent almost a month there, feeling into what that would be like to live there. My family came too and it was delightful. I am not sure words can describe how much I actually LOVED it, being in a remote beach area, few people, lots of sand, shells, sea creatures, big birds, salt, and a different kind of light and air. In the Forgotten Coast of Florida, there are no high rises, no big box stores, few cars traveling the roads, and forests all around the beach areas, offering us so much oxygen, animals, sunrises, sunsets, and bird life, I just LOVED it. Peace and quiet, not the hustle and bustle of city life. Not as much concrete and noise, truck fumes and sirens, stores to shop in, and crime.
I traveled to another beach for a retreat a month later and again, loved the light, the air, and the peacefulness the beach offered me. Fast forward to my looking at houses online and finding out of the blue a realtor who sent me a few listings, and who said he had a special connection to one of the houses having lived there for awhile himself, 7 years ago.
As I tried to tell my financial advisor about my plans, I described a similar romance that also happened when I met my husband. I have a knowing. We might call it falling in love or we might say, I just have a knowing when something fits for me, it fits, and I want to live inside it and all around it, and it works out somehow. Not without conflict or stress at times, but feeling so aligned with me.
Of course this beach house was too expensive and surely someone else would buy it before we could decide about how to even think about such a move. I even traveled down there alone to see this and other properties, and it didn’t feel good really. Not having my family there, being alone, wasn’t what I wanted, although I have often said and consciously thought in life: "I just want to be alone more." Being alone there without my family did not fit, however, and I gave up this idea for awhile. On the back burner thinking, why not take the leap?
Weeks later the desire, the obsession returned. I am writing about all this particularly to tell this next part of the tale. Usually when I want something I am driven, I stride toward what I want with blinders on, tunnel vision so to speak. This time I didn’t want to live my life that way or be as anxious and aggressive about what I want, and having learned from so many amazing teachers, mentors and energy healers lately, I decided on a different strategy. My financial advisor said, “Be patient (the interest rates are high, there may be a recession, people will start selling properties for 1/2 their price soon, just wait.” So sensible.
Patience is an important value for me to practice and is not natural for me. So, I decided if this was "meant to be,” then it would happen and if it wasn’t meant to be, it wouldn’t. I had heard that before from so many people including my mother, and I thought maybe I would sit still with this and see. Still thinking to myself, life can be so short. Now, writing about it in my sweet state of patience.
What I realized is that this process is about trusting in life, or the divine, or the Great Mystery. Or, having faith that what happens, which is surely not always in my control, is OK, it just is. As Byron Katie recommends, life just is, and we can accept life as it is. If we struggle against the flow, we use a lot of energy and drain ourselves. Yes, I have influence and can navigate around choices and options, but I cannot make things happen like I had previously hoped or thought. What a myth! Just doesn't always work.
All of the sudden one week, as the beach house desire got whetted again, I realized something that I have not consciously experienced before: It seemed like I have already “moved” to this house at this particular beach location. I was there already. I joked with my husband about it, after setting up normal tasks to see if we can sell our house and for how much and what plan to use to make such a big decision as this. Ideas popped into me or out of me, like putting us on the waiting list for an Independent Living space here in town so that when and if we need such a space, we will have moved up the waiting list and can make that happen. Like, not wanting to give up residence in Nashville, realizing we can always return, rent an airbnb, see our friends, our doctors, and family often. There were so many options about how to make this happen, I am still amazed, believing that it would happen. And, if it didn’t, that was OK too. Sure, I’d be disappointed, but I am practicing detachment along with living my dream even before I get to live it in this physical 3D reality - if I do.
As I realized I had already moved in some plane of my life, some interesting feelings and fantasies arose. One morning, I woke up and realized that I was already enacting in my body, mind, and heart, where I would walk the dogs down there at the beach. Maybe I would walk them out onto the 350 ft pier that penetrates the bay, but maybe I would walk the grounds of the community first with them, then feed them, and then take them to a nearby beach where we can walk in the white, warm sand, and view the ocean, the sky, the sun, and breathe that beautiful, satisfying salty air that envelopes us. I saw myself doing just that almost as if I was now leading a parallel life there along with being here at home, walking the beautiful green, spring time streets of Nashville after a nice rain. No longer as needy or pushy about the physical move at that point, because I was already there.
I am also holding on to this quotation as I allow these energies to flow:
"The psychotic drowns in the same waters in which the mystic swims with delight."
~ Joseph Campbell
* I want to thank so many of my teachers and mentors in my life, here are but a few: growing up with my parents; Breathwork training with Kenneth Robinson and Linda Manning; Art and Soul, Tobi Fishel and writing circles; Jenna Longmire and the Tree of Life Mystery School; Tammy Roth and all that she is and does; Rebecca Campbell and the Inner Temple Mystery School; Virginia Satir on a beach in Destin, FL for a month in the 1970's, learning all about family systems and magic; all the groups and circles I have participated in and all the members of these circles; my family; my friends and my clients, and so many more.
** That phrase, "repetition compulsion" and even the term "obsession" and "psychotic" are such pathologically oriented terms, I like to believe that many types of thinking, feeling and experiencing life are just fine unless they cause distress - even though I know sometimes we get into trouble using our best survival skills later on in life when those behaviors may hurt us more than they help us.
Tuesday, May 20, 2025
Barbara Sanders, Sacred Metamorphoses YouTube channel, Lineage and Poetry
Monday, May 19, 2025
Serious Every Day
I have been serious every day of my life
And now
I can’t stop laughing
Giggling when I make mistakes or
When non-harmful accidents happen
Laughing so hard at Steve Carrell in
Bruce Almighty* that my abdomen hurts
Not being able to breathe while the
Tears stream out of my eyes
Giddy
Except maybe when I was a little girl
I can imagine myself laughing a lot then
Snickering at all the serious big people
Around me
Chuckling at nonsensical silliness
I have a family member who, when he was young and
Make a mistake, instead of saying how stupid he was
(Like most children I knew)
He would say: “How silly!”
I marveled at how his parents must have raised him
What joy, what comfort, what fun!
Maybe this only happens when
We older people have suffered and
Felt so much grief, sadness, and rage
So much of our lives that
It is time to let go and
Let the child-like goofiness emerge
Bubbling up from way deep down inside
Hidden away for so very long
Now, we are so easily taken by surprise and
Hope that we are not acting too sacrilegious or
Irreverent
And, now
If we are
Who cares?
* the clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iplfWUtKMzI
Sunday, May 18, 2025
ReBecoming
Part 1
What happens if I cut my metaphorical
Umbilical cord to my “mother”
My human deceased mother and
My society’s and culture’s “mother”
Which has actually been a patriarchal place to live
If I cut that cord to Mother
How will that feel?
How will I feel?
Will I float out into the cosmos separated from earth?
Will I detach from my usual worldly realities
So that I am unattached, all alone
Except for the Divine Mysteries?
(That's a big "except for”)
Will I live in a spiritual womb
That offers me all that I want
All that I need?
What will it be like to be with Spirit
All of the time
Not just once in awhile?
Daily, when I walk down the street and see
The goldfinches whizz by and hear
The young mockingbird singing
At the top of his lungs
Rejoicing in the sounds that he makes
I smile
These are gifts from Spirit
When I hear the doves coo
When I see dandelions and other wildflowers growing
All offerings of beauty and delight
Shared by Grace
I am happy
Perhaps these are sensory seductions of the Divine
If I cut my umbilical cord to Mother
Meaning to my earlier patriarchal conditioning and training
I may become an aging hippie crone witch
Living in the Florida swamps
Among the bugs and alligators
Spanish moss, pelicans, and osprey
Brown skinned, hot and sweaty
My hair, a tangled mess
Much like it was when I grew up
So that my mother braided my hair carefully
Every day for 7 years until
It was cut shorter
I may also become a large Amazonian priestess or
Shaman, I guess we never know
I may not feel rebellious toward my mother anymore
I may not feel defensive no matter what others
Say to me or in reaction to how people seem to feel around me
I may no longer really care much about how I look or
How I speak, no longer worried about acting appropriately
In public or even at home with other human beings
No, I may not really care much about those things any more
I will feel embodied breathing deeply, meditating
(and whatever else I choose)
To help me dive into the Spirit world and be with the elementals and
The fairies in the deep, dank forests, wet and fertile
While I sing, chant, dance, and hum, bowing to Mother Earth
Illustrating my deep devotion to the Divine
Throughout the remainder of my life here
Unlike my mother, does Spirit require anything of me?
Do I need to replace Mother’s and follow Spirit’s rules
Dictating my behaviors, thoughts, feelings and deeds?
I wonder
What will life look like?
Who will I become?
I really don’t know
Not yet being able to shed
Many of the teachings I have learned
While growing up with Mother
If I disengage from my identity as
Mother's Child and
Deepen my identity with the Divine
Who am I really?
Who will I ReBecome?
I do thank my mother for all she helped me do and be
How do I unlearn or re-learn new ways of being, ReBecoming?
No longer nervous, anxious, or worried about doing all the “right” things
Not so tied to results of my performances while human
I will be free, liberated from the shackles I have adopted to bind me
I will race through the world at times, and at other times
Be so still that Spirit will hover closely beside me, within me, and I can
See and hear and feel and even touch more spiritual and mystical
Energies than ever before
I will be so relaxed and I will rest so well
I will feel deep, delicious, and sustaining energy
Without needing to create a job or a new career for myself
I will not have to work so hard but will create all sorts of art
Playing and enjoying my lazy days
Just being
Not doing
What paradise that may be!
What joy and bliss!
And, I don’t have to die physically to ReBecome
(Which I guess I may have believed before)
I can just sit with Grace and Love and not Do
Just Be
Feeling worthy and enveloped by the Love of
All the entities and guides
All the energies, dark and bright, that I wander through
While living in this world
I will be more content and comfortable
Than I have ever imagined being before
The best description is Peaceful
Amen
Hooray
And, so it is
Part 2
What will I miss if I am with Spirit all of the time
Or even more of the time?
I might miss all the rules I have learned so well
I know how to play by those rules (or rebel from them) and
Act like a success
I might miss being the anxious, excitable and
Enthusiastic, animated person that I am
You know, the one sometimes filled with adrenaline
Supercharged and hyper-vigilant while following
Mother’s seemingly easy rules
I might miss the attention I get from humans
Who seem to accept me (if I perform well)
But I have to wonder if I will need so much of
That kind of attention if I feel more at
One with Spirit?
I won't miss so much doing for others
Because I have often been driven to do more for them
Than they ever even wanted
Trying clumsily to maybe feel loved
Instead, I can do for myself and for others
As I get inspired to, rather than
Just being driven and bound to (tied to)
I know I fear that if I slow down too much
I will become a puddle on the floor
Not making myself exercise nor
Managing my food intake, instead I may be
Like an amoeba with no boundaries at all
Oozing and maybe even gushing at times
Spilling out, losing the self I have known
I fear getting heavy and that is about Mother, too
Maybe I also won't need so much soothing from food
Because I will be filled with Spirit
And maybe even more satisfied than
What my human body craves and delights in
(Salt, grease, and chocolate)
If I ReBecome, I may appear to other humans as
Brain damaged or psychotic
Maybe demented so that they may
Feel sorry for me and my family
Or not
Wow, what fears these are and more!
No wonder I have resisted this invitation by
Spirit to join more fully into the divine energies
More consciously, more exuberantly
Than I have ever before imagined
Having experienced such human fear and anxiety
What will my life be like
Without that fear and anxiety?
Heaven